Changes

It has been a while since I posted and I have definitely missed blogging. Blogging gives me a peace that I cannot explain. It’s kind of therapeutic for me actually and I plan to do this more often. So I am Barack guys!!I am so excited.

Let me be honest, I have been kind of lost in the motions of life for a while now. Well…adulting happened I guess and the things I loved and the dreams I had for my life took the back seat for a while. With dissatisfaction in my life, came frustration and my jobs and relationships took a big hit. I was no longer excited about life. I know I am not alone here when I say I woke up feeling like I was carrying the weight of the world on my shoulders everyday. Something definitely had to give. I had to make some changes.

I felt deep down that there was more to life than that. Everything in my life was suffering because of how frustrated and depressed I was in my life. Spiritually, I was hurting as well. I prayed and read the bible less and less by the day and going to church became a dreaded chore. I wanted and still want more in my life and I felt God was leading me to make some changes. I had to adjust my sails to where the wind was taking me…to where God was taking me. I had to trust the process and find the peace and direction I so needed in my life.

Sometimes to make good changes in your life, you have to step back from everything and look at things from a different perspective. You have to view your life deeply from the outside to find out where you are now versus what your attributes, personal desires and goals are. That’s exactly what I did. God has been a huge guide in my life. I feel closer to Him than ever. I feel more at peace with where He is taking me. I am finally getting to my old self and I love it. Finally life has meaning and I wake up feeling excited about life again. Although I am not there yet, I look foward to what is ahead of me.

If you are in the same position that I was in, take a step back and really look at your life. You have to answer questions like where are you now, what do you want to become, what are your strengths and weaknesses and how can you get there…in order to find yourself again. Don’t forget to pray and make some time for God every day. He really can speak to you and show you what he wants you to do if you listen. There is a peace that comes from knowing that your life is in God’s hands and that everything will work out for your good. Have the courage to step out of your comfort zone as well. You have make decisions that you would not normally make, take risks that you would rarely take and let God work in your life. I believe that if we do that, me included, we will be on the road to happiness and success in our lives.

This is my truth, my thoughts.

 

3 Steps to a Happier You (3 min read) — Millionaire’s Digest

Written by Millionaire’s Digest Team Member: Rebecca Dolman Founder

via 3 Steps to a Happier You (3 min read) — Millionaire’s Digest

 

PRAYER

I have a passion for the presence of God burning inside of me. A flame I can’t put out and don’t want to.

I want to live a life that is led by prayer. I no longer want fear and insecurity to define me. That is the woman I want to be.

I want to start fighting with the weapon called PRAYER for a change. My human efforts fail me.

Being a lazy Christian should no longer be our life’s story. We need to get in touch with God on a level that goes beyond any relationships we have.

We need to finally open our hearts to a future led by Him. To raise our expectations of life because God can only lead us to more and never less.

I NEED GOD. WE ALL NEED GOD.

PRAYER IS THE ANSWER!!

 

 

 

2017

God has been good to me  in 2016. Looking foward to an even better year.

Be blessed everyone.😘

 

BE PRESENT

Conversations are the epitome of all relationships. Without conversations, there will be no relationships. Many relationships we have with family, friends, colleagues etc. are strained. We struggle to understand why frustration, insecurities, anger and many issues crop up and threaten our interactions every other day. Everyone wants to have healthy relationships. Relationships that make us feel safe, understood and appreciated for who we are but how do we get there?

Granted, issues will always arise in human interactions. This is because no one is the same. Some might have the same interests but each of us is unique in our own way. Even twins are different. How we approach life varies and conflict will always arise among us. We need to find a middle ground. A peaceful place where there is love, acceptance and understanding above all else.

This place can only be reached if we are willing to listen and be present. According to Nancy Van Pelt (Heart to Heart), most of the issues in relationships arise because we are never completely present in conversations. We are either completely not there or partly there. Few people have mastered the art of listening. Lucky for us, it is a skill that can be learned. It takes time but it is well worth it.

Look into a persons’ eyes as they talk. Looking at the television as your wife is complaining about how her day has been so hectic is not listening. Most of the words she will say will enter through one ear and leave through the other. The eyes are the window to the soul. Looking at someone while they speak gives you a better understanding of their feelings. I believe being present at that time , in that moment will save us a lot of heart ache and problems in the future.

Listen with the intent to understand not to reply. I have been a victim of this many times. A person begins to talk and I immediately jump to my conclusions and answer without really understanding what the person is trying to put across. I know I am not the only one. Or am I? hehe.

“Dad, you never take us out anymore. Your always working,” a child might say. What that really means is the child is missing the dad’s attention and company. Read between the lines. There is always meaning to every thing said. Listen and try to understand what the person is saying. Show your interested, node your head, maintain good eye contact, show empathy to the other party, JUST BE PRESENT.

I have learned that being open to being present in that time, eliminating every distraction and giving the other person 100% attention will help me grow close and intimate relationships. We need people in our lives. We need good relationships. They make us happier and better people. Why not try being a better listener? Would you want the same special treatment? I know I do.

 

 

 

 

OVERTHINKING

http://elitedaily.com/life/overthinking-root-problems/

Guilty as charged!!

Don’t overthink…just overflow with good vibes.

We will never be free until we free ourselves from the prison of our own thoughts.

Nice read for the day.

 

 

 

WHAT NEXT?!

WHAT TO DO NEXT???

When you wake up one morning and realize all your expectations have gone down the drain.

That person you had hopes in let you down so hard, your still screwed up.

That interview you thought you nailed, remained just that “A job interview I attended”.

Your plans for expanding your business failed terribly, your competitors are still laughing.

“What next?” becomes the question that bellows in your mind.

Nothing seems to matter anymore. Your just going through the motions of life.

You do not like where your life is right now but you don’t know what to do about it.

Weeeeellllllll…Life is hard! Where I am now is not where I want to be some years to come. I have so many goals and dreams I’m yet to achieve and so do you.

Yelling “PLOT TWIST!” should be your strategy every time your faced with a giant that is blocking your way. You find another way to get where you want to be. A bump on the road does not mean you stop. It means you slow down jump it and move on.

THERE IS ALWAYS A WAY. If the front door does not open, go round the back. If the back door does not open, go through the window.Hell, go through the roof if you have to.

JUST DO NOT GIVE UP. You just have to push a little harder to get the life you want.

Your dreams are not so far away.

TRUST THE PROCESS AS WELL. What your going through is preparing you for big things ahead.

Every ladder has steps. When you want to use a ladder to get to the top, you have to start from the bottom.

What screws us up, I believe, is the expectation in our heads of how things are supposed to be. How relationships, jobs, friends, family, businesses etc. should be.

THE BEST VIEW COMES AFTER THE HARDEST CLIMB. Everything on this earth has a process and requires work.

In order to get something, you have to work at it. You have to go through some things so that you can handle bigger things that are on there way.

Accept the journey and change your mindset.

When negative thoughts begin to crop up and discourage you because of your circumstances, change your mind.

If you cannot change your mind, then why have one?

The new year is almost here guys…perfect timing for a change.

 

 

NEW CHAPTER

Every new beginning comes after another beginning’s end. Don’t give up…wake up and keep going. You owe it to yourself to be nothing but the best version of you.

 

INFORMATIVE!!

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THE LONELIEST PLACE IN THE WORLD

There is a loneliness that comes from being in a crowd. Having to live by other peoples’ standards and not having the option of doing things the way you want to do them. Having to constantly put your views aside for the majority. Replacing your greatness and uniqueness with a crowd’s mediocre view of what you should be. Finding yourself moving at a pace that does not suit you and in a direction that does not lead to the person you know you want to be and can be. Facing constant criticism and ridicule about the things that make you who you are. Always feeling an emptiness and purposelessness that you cannot describe and invisibility eventually becomes a feeling you know all too well. I am certain that everyone has found themselves trapped in such a place at some point in their lives…I know I have.

We find ourselves going by the majority and we have no idea how we ended up trapped by them. We get lost and forget who we are and what makes us tick. Sometimes we don’t even realize it until someone else outside the crowd points it out. Stepping out of the crowd makes you realize that that is not all your capable of and that there is a whole other world out there. A world full of opportunities and ideas waiting to be actualised by your potential. You get to realize that you have been held back for too long. You begin to see that you have compromised on your freedom and happiness for too long and something has to be done. Please take a step out of the crowd and see the bigger picture…life is too short.

Begin to bet on yourself. It’s time to stand up and be alone. Being alone and happy is much better that being lonely in a crowd. A decision has to be made and the only one that can make the decision is you. It’s time to decide that your no longer going to let other people define you. Decide to take a stand. Refuse to take the back seat and go be the driver of your life. Hell, if you have to force it…FORCE IT. Get rid of the crowd and anyone else holding you back and let your light shine. You are too gifted and full of potential to be held back by people. Dare to walk the path you want to take and don’t let anyone hinder you…not even yourself. Anyone who follows the crowd will usually go no further than the crowd but someone who walks alone is likely to find himself in a place no one has ever been before. Dare to start your own journey and don’t look back.

Remember, leaving the crowd doesn’t mean that you will walk alone all through…it means that your willing to walk your own path, at your own pace and anyone worth walking with you will join you and help you along the way. That kind of a crowd is the one you need to keep. Start the journey…you won’t regret it.